Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Fertilty Clinic Frustration

Today is the day I decided to try again. More specifically, to try getting on the fertility clinic/ART merry-go-round again. After doing some internet searches on doctors I made the pick. Discussed it with Darling Husband and we agreed to meet with the 'white coat men' (aka Reproductive Endocrinologists).

So, I picked up the phone and called the number on the clinic's website to set up an appointment as a new patient. I was put through to the person that coordinates new patients. Unfortunately, I did not get to speak to a 'live' person and was put through to voice mail. I hate voice mail and answering machines, but I did leave a message stating my name and phone number three times.

It's been almost two hours and I haven't heard from this person. Have I mentioned that it drives me nuts when people don't return phone calls? After dumping my frustrations on Darling Husband, he suggested that the person probably wasn't at work today and they'll phone me tomorrow. Well, I'll wait until tomorrow and I'll try phoning again. This is the part that I hate most of all about relocating: trying to find new doctors and/or specialists. Guess I have to be stronger and more patient...But it is frustrating when today I am ready to try again...I want to get the ball rolling...I want to set up an appointment.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Avoiding Facebook...Again

Happened to log on to Facebook the other day and was bombarded with baby photos. An acquaintance on my friends list just had a baby and excitedly posted a dozen photos of the newborn. While I am happy for the couple and their new baby, I really don't need to see all these photos of a 'fresh' (yes, just minutes old with blood and other stuff I can't describe still clinging to it) newborn staring at me when I go on Facebook. So, I think I'll be taking a break from Facebook for the next week...or, until I can bear to see more baby stuff.

Monday, October 6, 2008

Mad Men Addresses Adoption

Last night's episode of Mad Men had the fertility-challenged couple of Peter and Trudy Campbell contemplating adoption. I love seeing how couples dealing with infertility 'coped' back in the early 1960s before ART was available. (Really, think about it: how many of us take ART for granted?)

The Peter Campbell character initially was repulsed by the idea of adoption, but his wife pointed out that one can love a baby that is not genetically related to you. His mother's reaction to adoption was to threaten to cut him out of her will. Gee, I had no idea that adoption was not widely accepted back in the early 1960s.

On the flip side, it was funny to hear Peter Campbell's brother say that he and his wife 'hoped to become one of those childless couples that everyone invites over for dinner.'

Here's hoping that the Mad Men writers continue to feature how these characters cope with the challenge of infertility.

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Where Do We Go From Here?

Ever patient Darling Husband and I are settling into our new place and trying to unpack a mountain of boxes. The guest room/office is looking more like a storage area with a laptop at the moment. Moving is always exciting, stressful, and invigorating.

One of the more difficult aspects of moving to a new city is finding new doctors. I especially need to find a new acupuncurist as this relocation was so stressful on myself that I completely missed a 'cycle' in August....after dropping cash on a handful of pregnancy tests. Need to find a GP and I'm thinking about finding an RE as well. Not sure in which order I should do that one. DH and I have been thinking about trying IVF. I really don't know if I want to finally throw in the towel with ART. A big birthday is fast approaching and I'm not sure how the ART community treats women over a certain age. Funny enough, the older I get the stronger and more confident I become. I feel more capable of being a mother now than when I was in my twenties. If only my ovaries would cooperate!!

Gabby Now Fertile???

If anyone caught Desperate Housewives last Sunday night you might just be as confused as I am. The characther Gabby was supposedly unable to have children -- not sure on the specifics, but it was discovered after she suffered a miscarriage. Now, as the show has jumped forward five years, we discover Gabby with two young children. Is anyone else curious as to how these children came to be? Was there an adoption, a surrogate, or was her inability to have children conveniently forgotten for the current storyline???? Enquiring minds want to know.